How Do You Flirt With a Girl Without Being Obvious?

[19 Steps] How To Get The Woman


  1. First and foremost, remember that these rules will not always work! Maybe she likes a real man who will hold the door open for her.
  2. Now then, start up a conversation with her. Speak with confidence and flow, but do not attempt extreme images such as macho, super-smooth, cool dude, comedian, pick-up artist, witty conversationalist, or having a profession that you do not have.
  3. You can pretend the confidence at first. It will come more naturally when she responds to you.
  4. Don’t overwhelm her with compliments. You should focus on going from “nice acquaintance” to “intimate friend/potential lover” quickly. Intimate friends joke around, tease each other gently, touch each other. Start with touching her on the arm when you’re laughing (don’t watch the hand). See if she touches you.
  5. Don’t act like you’re trying to impress her. If she really does something stupid and is a little embarrassed (not horrified) call her out on it. Smirk, say, “Wow – that was smooth!” with a little smile, then change tone and say, “Oh – come here!” and comfort her with a little side-hug. If you do or say something stupid, don’t just ignore it, either. Don’t focus on it for too long, but just say, “It’s my first day walking. Give me a break!” with a smile.
  6. Throw in some jokes. Humor can relieve awkwardness. Alternatively, just learn to be witty. Almost all girls like intelligence as well as confidence.
  7. Show that you’re secure with yourself and when you say something that you stick to your word.
  8. If you say something weird, follow it up with something funny and turn it into a joke.
  9. Sit close to her but don’t breathe down her neck. Two chairs side-by-side are all that are needed. You might also be able to sit behind her and at times hit her hair a time or two. She’ll turn around if she feels you, then make a joke that she finds humorous.
  10. If she has a scarf on that you think is ok or really good, tell her, and touch her scarf for a few seconds. and ask when and where she got it
  11. Find something that you both think is hilarious. Turn it into an inside joke, so when you want to talk to her, you have something to say no matter what, and she thinks that something is funny. However, don’t use it too much, otherwise it loses its humor and her opinion of your humor is lowered.
  12. Don’t always be eager to start conversation with her. If she walks into class, you do not have to jump up and say hi immediately, but if she sits next to you and initiates conversation, go for it!
  13. Be the man! Girls hate it when they have to start the conversation or take the lead (let her talk too though! remember, listening is just as important!). You CAN go and sit next to her/talk to her, if she likes you she will not mind (she’ll love it!).
  14. Keep jumping from one topic to another while talking.
  15. Tell her some short wise and wonderful story if there is a long pause in the middle of your talks.
  16. Remember, strange as it may seem, since just about every boy is just as nervous about talking to them as you are, some very pretty girls have NEVER been flirted with or have had a boyfriend so don’t scare her off! Sometimes these super popular girls are even lonely because they feel they have all these friends and no one wants to go out with her. So become her friend first and then move on to the flirting (don’t stay her friend too long though; she may worry a relationship may ruin a friendship) this way you will not scare her off.
  17. Find out her interests, and music she likes. Then talk to her about them. If you can’t think of anything to talk about, use a conversation starter like “How has your day been?” or “Don’t you love this time of year?”. These most usually only work if you are already friends with her, and you see her on a daily basis. If you do see her on a daily basis and she mentions, for example, a vacation she is going on soon inquire where she is going branch off from there, and when she gets back ask her how it was. Don’t be extremely serious in your inquiry, just ask it casually.
  18. Don’t let her get the wrong idea that you’re just an annoying pest.
  19. DON’T flirt with two girls at once. It will make her confused and stop liking you.

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  • Remember, no matter what sex you are, girl or boy, if you feel you just can’t understand your ‘flirtee’ because of their gender, relax! Just about everyone feels this way. There’s even a book making fun of this titled “What men know about women.” It’s about 80 pages long, and every single page, other than the cover, is blank.
  • Flirting is supposed to be fun, so the less stressed and/or the more relaxed you are, the better! BE HAPPY.
  • Make sure you don’t smell bad or wear too much cologne.
  • Be sure to use whatever makes you stand out to your advantage to help her notice you. Be funny, charming, a good dresser, etc.
  • Be nicely groomed and brush your teeth.
  • After successfully getting the girl in a position where she will enjoy going on a date with you, ask her out.
  • If the girl is very good looking, she will be so used to having guys flirt with her that it won’t mean anything. Be cocky and funny. Poke fun at her a little bit and make her laugh. Don’t be mean! But, a little sarcasm here and there helps. The girl will feel like you are a challenge that needs to be conquered. Just keep it up and soon you’ll have her in your arms.
  • A good cologne can make a guy irresistible. Use a little cologne or at least shampoo that smells good. Girls really notice how a guy smells. Just don’t wear too much! Too much never smells good!
  • No one is out of any one’s reach. It’s all about timing, and proper procedure. If you begin a conversation with someone you are interested in with confidence and be yourself, you’ll be surprised who you can attract.
  • Guys: Here’s another secret. Even if you are going to a dark nightclub, wear your best shoes freshly shined. The “once over” look that you hear about- That is actually a women looking at your eyes then your shoes. Women rate a man’s social status, style, personal habits, and spending habits with one look at his shoes. They would rather have a man that can afford really nice shoes, who can dress with style, who takes care of the things he has, and who isn’t too cheap to spend money on nicer things
  • Do NOT tell her yet that you like her, take things real slow.
  • If you do tell her you like her, pretend like you never did it just make comment about it, then carry on your conversation


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  • Be prepared for rejection. It happens to everyone
  • Don’t let her disinterest dissuade you. It doesn’t always work at first. Just keep speaking to her but don’t try any of the techniques. Just learn more about her.
  • The friend zone is a place no man wants to find himself. It’s hard to escape from and can totally kill her sexual interest in you. Don’t hang out with her constantly unless you’re having a romantic relationship. Stay in that little area just below a friend and keep chipping away at her. Someday it might work out but please note that she might only see you as a friend, and not how you see her.
  • If you practice on other girls, don’t hurt them. Don’t lead them on just to dump them. Pick girls you are really interested in. Who knows, you might end up finding someone even more interesting than the one you have your sights on.
  • Don’t trust dating advice written by most high school students, unless they are the type of person that can end up hooking up with many varieties of guys or girls very swiftly.
  • Lastly, DON’T BE STUPID. Don’t say anything that will make her mad, sad or uncomfortable.
  • Never overreact to anything she says. She’ll think you’re mocking her and will become slightly uneasy.
  • Never tell her you like her at the beginning because they will think woah! And distance themselves from you

Jason Smith

I am a Marine who now works as a Web Developer. I have five US States left to visit. I like whiskey, wine, and coffee, soaking in hot springs or in my hot tub.

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