Online Dating General Tips – Page 2

There are many people who consider Christianity a crucial pre requisite for a lifetime partnership with another person. As there is considerable demand for Christian minded people to find a partner, there has been an increase in the number of Christian dating sites that have emerged on the Internet. There are generally strict guidelines before people can become members of Christian dating sites and for this reason the sites tend to have a lower membership count than many of the general dating sites. The upside of this however is the fact that the clientele is more targeted so you can be assured that you will only be looking in a market where you are sure that the people online will have the background that you are interested in. There are free and paid Christian dating sites with the free sites earning their income from the advertising that is displayed on the site. These sites allow you to post a picture of yourself and your profile giving other members the chance to see what your interests are. When a suitable candidate is found the members can make contact with one another and determine if they would like to interact further after corresponding online. This offers a safe environment and also makes it a lot easier for those people who are too shy to make contact with others in offline dating situations, such as parties, clubs and so on. Many Christian dating sites also arrange events where people can meet one another in a safe environment, such as dances, dinners and in some instances holidays or weekend travel. Christian dating sites cater for all age groups and personal situations, from young singles to elders and those who have lost their partners through bereavement or divorce. If Christianity is an important aspect of your lifestyle then Christian dating sites might be just what you are looking for. Christians and Online Dating Sites - Why Should Committed Christians Be Online Dating Online dating sites have been around for more than a decade now and their success shows no sign of slowing down. As technology advances there are more and more ways in which we can interact with each other. Soon phone technology will allow us to communicate by video with one another while on the move and GPS will allow us to meet with each other in a crowded shopping mall. These technologies are soon to be combined to help us all in our search for suitable partners. This is the cutting edge of the interconnected world we live in. Yet, with technology allowing these meetings to take place in the world, why are committed Christians still reluctant to use it to help them find partners? Single Christians are in the un-enviable position of being highly restricted in a number of areas in regards to how they can meet new people. Firstly, if a Christian is single and is committed to their faith, they will be restricted to only wanting to date other committed Christians. This rules out a huge percentage of the population at a stroke. A non-Christian can walk down the street and see potential matches all the time. A committed Christian knows that the only (more or less) guaranteed place to meet suitable people is in their local Church. Secondly, not only can single Christians only really date other single Christians but the fact that these are only to be found in all kinds of Churches spread out all over the area they live in makes meeting them quite difficult. No one likes to be too obvious that they are looking for a partner and Christians are no different. In the goldfish bowl environment of the local Church the single Christian can feel particularly on show and this makes any approach to the opposite sex a scary experience. A rejection by someone in their own church can put them off dating for good. So what can single Christians do to help themselves? This is where dedicated online Christian dating websites give a distinct advantage. There are several advantages which should be considered by committed single Christians. Firstly, a Christian run online dating service will know and understand the particular needs of committed single Christians. Non-Christian sites cater for all kinds of people and can’t target their profiles to committed Christians and their searches allow all kinds of people to contact each other. This leads to approaches by unsuitable people that may lead the Christian away from their lifestyle. A Christian run site will screen people through specially designed profile questions and the essays will usually reveal if a person is really a committed Christian. Secondly, a Christian run online dating site allows committed Christians to cross the Church and area boundaries. This allows them to approach people they may never meet in their ordinary day-to-day church activities. Thirdly, by using an online Christian dating service committed Christians can pursue their relationships with anonymity and without interference and potential judgement by others in the church. So now really is the time to get online and join one or more of the excellent online Christian dating sites. Christian Singles: Learn To Maximize Your Relationship Success Christian singles, do you want to build healthy and successful relationships? If your answer is "yes!", then you must learn how to pick people with godly character traits, as well as be a person of godly character! First, let's take a look at what healthy and satisfying relationships look like... Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach in their book, Safe People, that healthy relationships include four qualities. First, they are safe emotionally and physically. Second, they have boundaries that are respected. Third, they draw you closer to God and help you to grow spiritually. And fourth, they do not compromise your Christian values. There are some other identifying marks of a healthy relationship which Cloud and Townsend mention. For example you will feel built up not torn down. In other words the relationship will help you become who God wants you to be. Also, you will be drawn closer to others in a healthy way. In healthy relationships you can also expect mutual trust, respect and vulnerability as well as a balanced sense of giving and taking. Most importantly you will experience healthy and satisfying relationships by looking for a mate based on Christian principles and by choosing to be a person of godly character yourself. Naturally, it is common even for Christian singles to be attracted to the outside of a person: their looks, their status, their achievements, and their intelligence. But remember, it is the inside of a person that we experience in relationships. The time to evaluate character in others is before you get too deeply involved. As Cloud and Townsend say, "When the attachment deepens, the reasoning weakens." The scriptures warn us to, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." Proverbs 4:23. At this point you may be wondering, what kind of character traits should Christian singles look for and aspire to? Ruth and Boaz, two singles from the Bible, exemplify the kind of character traits to look for in a potential mate. Ruth's character traits were: devotion to God and to family -- the evidence of her character was in her actions. She was humble and teachable. She was focused on her responsibilities. Her faith was in God to provide for her -- she trusted Him for a future spouse. She was a woman of her word. She did what she said she would do. Boaz was devoted to God and to his farming responsibilities. He did not let his heart become entangled and he was not distracted from his priorities. He was a man of his word. He did what he said he would do. He was a Christ-type -- he exemplified the character and work of Christ - especially in his act of redemption for Ruth. If you want to become a person of character, you must take personal ownership of your character development. You must be willing to stop blaming others for your short comings and failures. You are the only one who can do it. If you have a pattern of painful relationships take an honest look at your own character traits. Confess to the Lord the things you discover about yourself and make a plan for change. For example read a book on the subject, set personal limits and develop an accountability system. If you have unresolved issues from your past such as trauma, abuse, abandonment or neglect and you recognize a pattern of painful relationships, find someone who will help you work through them like a pastor or a counselor. When people have been traumatized by these things as children, they often need to make changes that will bring healing and wholeness in order to function well in close relationships. Finally, Christian singles need a plan for spiritual growth. Your plan should include making knowing and loving God a priority in your life. Choose to order your life around knowing God rather than finding a mate. Then pray for a mate who is committed to the same things. You see, God's primary work in each of us is to conform us to the image of Christ. As you devote yourself to God and His word, and yield to His Holy Spirit, your character will change. As your character changes you will likely experience more relationship success. Christian Online Dating Services Christian online dating has become evermore popular in recent years. It’s increase in popularity is shown by the fact that Christian online dating services can command up to half a million members. That’s a dedicated following of members that are actively seeking other like minded singles for either friendship or romance. Depending on what community a Christian single lives in, it can be difficult to interact with other Christians. They might have to travel to far, or not know the best places to go. Christian dating services give Christians an instant chance to meet other singles and share their religious beliefs. These services will give a Christian single a chance to grow spiritually and socially. Many of the services have Bible study chat rooms where young Christians can be taught by the more worldly Christians. These study periods may not be available for some Christians offline so they will be an invaluable source of knowledge and aid a Christian in growing internally. Choosing the right Christian dating service is an important factor for their enjoyment. This will also give them a better chance of building a meaningful relationship. Finding out how many Christians there are living within a designated distance is going to be the first test. With Christian dating services all supplying a free trial period in some form, at least finding this out will cost nothing. Once the Christian online dating service has been chosen the adventure begins. With the free service still being used usually a single can only respond to another singles messages. You may get the chance to send some sort of teaser to show you are interested, but generally to initiate full contact a single must pay for a membership. A months online dating never costs more than a night out, so not that many singles should be put off by the price. Thousands of Christian singles worldwide are enjoying the advantages that Christian online dating gives them. Many of them have married their perfect partners that they never would have met offline, which makes it all the more a worthwhile experience. Christian Online Dating – Find The Right One… Christian online dating allows a number of people to have access to a database of Christian singles all over the world. Christian online dating service is intended to help men and women meet other singles in a comfortable online environment. Christian online dating service personals community is a source for creating relationships ranging from companionship to friendship, romance to marriage. Christian online dating service is established to help people build successful, long-lasting relationships. Christian online dating service aims to help millions of people find the right partner for life-long love and happiness. Some Christian online dating service even provides features such as searches for bible study and prayer partners across the world, depending on which online Christian dating service you accessed. For those who want to be part of Christian online dating, the following suggestions are given: 1. Post a Better Photo - Take a look at the photos you have posted. Make sure that the photo you posted in Christian online dating sites depicts your best self. With the aid digital and disposable cameras it has become quick, easy, and cheap to take a flattering photo. 2. Make Your Match Profile Answers Fascinating - Your profile in Christian online dating is an opportunity to express yourself and stand out. Make sure that you are being authentic and interesting. After all, this is the page where your matches will be deciding whether they want to get to know you. 3. Close Any Old Matches Who Aren't Communicating - If you have any open matches in Christian online dating who have fallen silent, it is good to officially close communication with them. Not only does it clear your screen and help you prepare for new Christian online dating matches, it also provides a wake-up call to the other person that they are falling behind. Always use the closing reason "Because you didn't respond to my communication." 4. Revisit Your Match Settings - Many people set their Match Settings when they join and forget about them. As their life changes and their needs change, they don't take the time to reflect these changes in their Match Settings. For example, many people decide after spending some time on that they would feel comfortable opening up their geographic range a bit. They learn about how our communication system helps them focus on a few people who they are really interested in meeting. So they feel comfortable taking matches from across the country. So they should make necessary changes on their Christian online dating match settings. Christian Dating Sites Internet dating or matchmaking services give members the opportunity to look at all the options and make a more informed decision about whom they want to contact. Members of these services are given the opportunity to take the initiative and pursue the person he or she is interested in meeting. Most internet dating or matchmaking web sites were created for people of any lifestyle, however, many Christian singles realized that meeting other eligible Christians could be quite difficult. Christian Dating Sites emerged from the need of Christian singles to contact other Christian singles in their community. Like other dating web sites, Christian dating sites vary, depending on what the person is looking for. Some sites target a specific age demographic, such as single Christians over 30 years old. Most sites, however, are for any age and denomination. They vary in the way that the questionnaire is set up and how people can contact each other. Matchmaking and dating services tend to work through questionnaires, and they will ask both in-depth and general questions. Some Christian dating sites are actual matchmaking services that match one person’s profile with that of another. After the person has filled out the questionnaire or series of surveys, the site will match up the person with a variety of potential dates based on similar interests, demographics, and psychographics. This person can then peruse the list of potential dates and decide whom to contact. Most matchmaking sites like these will also give members the opportunity to perform their own searches based on certain criteria. The site will then direct them to the profiles of the other dating service members that fulfill those criteria. Other Christian dating sites do not match profiles; rather, they encourage people to register, post a profile, and browse other members’ profiles. The questions asked on these profile-building pages are far more general than the questionnaires on the matchmaking sites. Anyone who is a member is able to contact other members directly; either through a web based email available through that service or through other web-based tools, like blogs. Christian Online Dating Christian online dating is one of the safest portals of meeting other people for dating or a serious relationship. Most people consider online dating as an option in getting to know other people outside of their circle. The Christian community now utilizes the current trend of communication to widen their reach and to create a fun- loving environment. You can search thousands of other Christian profiles and get to know each one online. There’s a vast Christian network that have varied interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. You can check out their profiles and you may get to like one. You’ll never know. Christian online dating has proved to be very effective for most people who participate with friendships often blooming to serious relationships. Christian online dating provides a very comfortable environment and is considered safe. The online dating community is a place where you can create lasting relationships for acquaintance, friendship, companionship, romance, and can even lead to a permanent commitment. A Christian online dating website would include chat rooms where you can have fun discussions. Post memos and notes in message boards. Share pictures with photo galleries. And of course, send personal messages to private mail boxes. They also feature instant messaging and voice introductions for a more personal touch. Some of the Christian websites even offer Christian dating services aside from online matching. In a Christian online dating site, the center is spirituality. You include faith in your search for a mate. Most people go to a Christian community for dates because they prefer to have somebody within their faith. People here believe that more or less, they have filtered out the dates with people who may not share the same set of values. Mellow people usually belong to this group of online daters. They are those who dislike too much loud music, bar hopping, and disco dancing. Most dates here end in a cozy restaurant or a sweet music place. Although this is not necessarily true all the time, it can be frequently observed on date outcomes based on testimonials. Dating a stranger sharing your beliefs would be more reassuring than starting with somebody who does not share the same principles. If you are joining a Christian online dating site, more or less you’ll know what you can expect. And as implied, the online society is Christ-centered. And by association, Christ is all pure love and kindness. If you join the group, you are for Christian values and standards. Meeting the love of your life could be a possibility!