3 Beginner Mistakes Guys Make With Women


So many good men end up getting rejected or friend zoned by pretty women who would have hooked up with them, or gotten into a relationship with them if they had only known how to avoid the 3 mistakes I discuss and give examples of in this video.

Without knowing these 3 basic, beginner mistakes, a guy will struggle to get easy, consistent results with women he finds attractive.

Attractive women will always seem to be a mystery to him.

They just won’t ever seem to make sense.

Additionally, a guy in that position will often see other guys who aren’t as good looking (cool or intelligent) as him with pretty women and wonder, “What the heck is going on? What does she see in him? Can’t she see that I’m better looking/cooler/a better guy overall?”

It just won’t make any sense to him why the girl would go for the other guy and not be interested in a guy like him.

So, to hopefully get a different result with pretty women, he might then decide to focus on trying to build up his career and hope that women eventually like him for that.

All the while though, he will notice that guys who aren’t doing as well as him in their career, or who are just working in an entry level job (e.g. waiter, bar assistant, basic office job, apprentice, fast food worker, etc) are able to attract pretty women for sex and relationships.

Years later, he might also realize that despite the improvements in his career, he still isn’t able to attract the pretty women he wants.

So, what is he missing?

Why isn’t he getting results with pretty women when other guys are able to?

In many cases, it will be due to him making one or more beginner mistakes that can easily be fixed.

Unfortunately, many men don’t ever realize how close they are to being successful with women.

Most men are simply a few adjustments away from easily attracting women, getting laid and getting a girlfriend.

Yet, they just don’t know it.

They assume that they are doomed when it comes to women and often ignore the fact that other normal, every day guys are able to easily get laid and get a girlfriend.

They are not doomed.

In fact, instantly attracting women is easy to do once you know what you’re doing.

It may seem difficult to some guys initially, but it’s not.

It’s simple once you get it.

Once you get it, women suddenly make total sense and you realize how easy they are to attract and pick up.

BTW: I hope you enjoyed today’s video and learned some interesting and useful tips and insights from it.

If you would like to learn my best ever techniques for getting laid or getting a girlfriend, then I recommend that read my ebook The Flow, or listen to the audiobook version, The Flow on Audio.

The Flow is the easiest way to get laid or get a girlfriend.

Just follow the simple steps of The Flow and you and a woman that you find attractive will flow smoothly from one step to the next.

If a man has been finding it difficult to get laid or get a girlfriend, he may eventually start to figure out where he has been going wrong, and he may then make some changes and start getting results with women.

Unfortunately, though, some guys end up making beginner-level mistakes with women, their entire single life and as a result, they don’t ever get to access the pretty women that they want, or they end up getting rejected by girls who were actually interested in them. But the interaction just became awkward and the girl lost interest for some guys. If that happens to them long enough, they may eventually start to believe that It’s their fate right. They are doomed with women.

Thankfully, though, for most men, all that is standing in between them and being able to hook up or get into relationships with women that they find attractive is just to understand. Where they’ve been going wrong and to simply adjust their approach. So they can have interactions that flow smoothly, where the woman wants to hook up with them sexually or be his girlfriend. So here are three beginner mistakes that so many guys make which end up, causing them to get rejected or friend zone by women who they could have.

Actually hooked up with number one trying to get a woman to like him as a person, rather than making her feel sparks of sexual attraction for him. So when a guy is a beginner at getting laid or getting a girlfriend or if he’s been doing it for a while and just hasn’t, figured this particular thing out, he will interact with a woman that he finds attractive and his focus will be on making her Feel comfortable around him right having a good conversation with her getting to know her and hoping that she sees that he’s a good guy, and then she likes him because of that she wants to be with him sexually and romantically.

Yet when he uses that approach in almost all cases, women that he meets will just feel a friendly type of vibes with him, the woman won’t be feeling excited and turned on. She won’t be feeling like she wants to jump on him and start kissing him and having sex with him instead, she’ll feel more like just a friend additionally, when a guy uses the approach where he just wants to make a woman feel comfortable and get to know her, what will often happen to him is that, if he’s talking to a woman or a couple of women and he’s having a comfortable conversation with them, he’s getting along with them and then another guy comes along and starts using flirting and humor, they will instantly lose interest in talking to the guy, who just wants to have a friendly conversation and they’ll focus on the guy who’s flirting with them to create a sexual vibe and he’s using some humor to energize the conversation they’ll become focused on him.

Meanwhile, the guy who’s, using the approach of just trying to make the girls feel comfortable and get along with them, is sitting there. Thinking what’s going on here, the girls are focused on this guy now right they like him. They want to talk to him and the girls start floating back with that guy before he knows that he feels like a third wheel or, if he’s with the group, he starts to feel like the awkward one in the group, because everyone else is connecting on a different level and he feels left out of it, so to avoid that happening to you, what you need to understand is that you can make a woman feel attracted to you right away.

You can energize the conversation. You can create a sexual vibe between you and her right away. It doesn’t need to be like that all the time you don’t need to be constantly flirting with her to create a sexual vibe or constantly using humor, but you need to be able to add that stuff in so the woman is feeling attracted to you she’s, seeing that you don’t want to just have a friendly conversation with her there’s a spark between you and her. She feels that energy between you and her, where it could become sexual and romantic. So if you’re talking to a couple of women and the conversation goes to what they do for a living, you can use their answers to that question.

To energize the conversation to flirt with them to use some humor, so they’re feeling some sexual feelings, they’re feeling attracted to you they’re feeling drawn to you. They want to interact with you and they can sense that you’re not just looking at them. As a couple of friends, you’re looking at them as women that you find attractive, and therefore you’re motivated enough to flirt with them right, they’re, not just girls, that you want to have a friendly conversation with you, actually, find them attractive.

Flirting is a language that women understand and that they prefer to use to discreetly show their interest in you. The dictionary definition of flirting is to behave as though you are attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement, rather than with serious intentions. In other words, flirting is when you playfully, show interest and make a woman feel attracted to you, for example, by being confident playfully challenging, assertive using some humor etc, but just for the fun of it.

When you make a woman feel attracted to you based on your behavior, and you also flirt to show some interest, she will then flirt back with you and due to the mutual attraction and mutual displays of interest between you and her. Both you and her can skip over trying to get to know each other and just start interacting, as though you and her are already a couple or are becoming a couple.

This is why you’ll see other guys create sparks of attraction inside of a woman within 10 to 15 seconds of talking to her, whereas other guys, who make the mistake of trying to get a woman to like him enough as a person to give him a chance. Will often talk to a woman for hours and hours and if he then asked for her number, he will get the old sorry, but I’m not looking for a boyfriend or you’re nice, but I think we’d be better off as friends as a beginner to attracting women.

He doesn’t understand the discreet language of flirting that cuts through all the getting-to-know-you phase and gets right into mutual playful displays of sexual attraction and interest. So back to the example say, for example, you are talking to two girls and you ask them what they do for a living. One girl says that she works as a nurse and the other. As a teacher to the teacher, you could say something like this: a teacher you look like you’d, be a mean teacher. You have that angry face about you that Stern look.

You know before I come over and talk to you, girls or standing across the bar, and I noticed you and you just had like an angry face on you just kidding you look like a sweetie. So, what’s it like being a teacher to the nurse, you can say something like this and you a nurse well that suits you, because you have very caring eyes, but I can see There’s a bit of a wild side in there as well. Now the thing is many: women want to be able to seem like they’re approachable when they’re out at a bar or a party. They don’t want to seem, like a mean type of woman, a type of woman, who’s got that resting, and so on.

Instead, they want to seem approachable. So when you say something like she had a mean look on her face a scowl on her face a sort of angry looking face. A woman is gonna, be shocked. She’s gonna be curious and she’s gonna want to find out why you thought that about her. But since you’re only joking and then you say just kidding, you look like a sweetie women who do want to be approached so they can meet a guy and hopefully find themselves.

A boyfriend will laugh at that and feel relieved that they don’t seem and unapproachable and instead are giving off a softer warmer and more open vibe. So that makes her feel attracted to you, because you have the confidence to say something like that to her the ability to make her laugh the ability to make her feel girly and put on the spot the social intelligence, to create a moment like that, and so On with the other example, the woman being a nurse saying that she has very caring eyes, but you can see a wild side in there as well.

Women love that, because once again, they do want to come across as having that femininity to them. That softness that warmth, but they want a guy to know that they also have a bit of a wild side, a bit of a naughty side. So when you say something like that, it creates a private connection between you and the woman where she knows that you get it. She knows that you understand that There’s a bit of a naughty side in the background as well a bit of a wild side.

Therefore, the conversation that you and her have doesn’t have to be all politeness and formalities. It can be a little bit edgy, which is then gon na, be a lot more fun for you and her now compare that to just trying to make the women feel comfortable. So what do you do? Oh you’re, a teacher and you’re a nurse: oh cool yeah. So how long you been working there cool interesting and what hospital do you work at?

Oh, well, yeah right! So how long you been working there and do you enjoy what you do? Yeah I mean must be very hard working as a nurse, a totally different experience for the man and the woman. But It’s just a neutral conversation. There’s no flirting going back and forth and a conversation like that can easily be disrupted by one of her friends or by someone else coming into the conversation right and she isn’t feeling enough attraction for the guy to want to focus on him.

Yet if you have a conversation with her, where you’re flirting with her and she’s feeling energized and someone comes in to interrupt the conversation, she’s gonna – want to bring her focus back on you because you are a guy who is making her feel attracted. There’s a connection between you and her. There are sparks between you and her she’s feeling drawn to you, There’s that energy between you and her, where It’s not just about having a friendly, neutral conversation, she’s feeling something for you, she’s feeling attracted to you she’s feeling drawn to you.

As I said, though, you don’t have to do that all the time right. It’s not a hundred percent of the time thing. It’s simply 20 % of the time, 80 % of the time you can have a normal everyday conversation, but you at least need to be able to add in some flirting a little bit of humor a little bit of challenging humor and so forth. 20 % of the time, if you want to have an energized, attracted conversation where the woman is drawn to you and she wants something to happen between you and her.

The thing is, though, some guys might feel like that’s just too difficult for them right. I don’t want to have fun when I’m talking to a woman like that, I don’t know putting any effort to challenge her in a playful way. I just want to talk to her and be the good guy that I am, and I want her to like me for that. Yet It’s important to understand that a woman’s attraction for a man is largely based on how his personality and behavior makes her feel right. If a guy is interacting with a woman and he’s just being neutral and friendly, then she’s not gonna be very attracted to him, but if that same guy starts being a little bit playfully challenging.

While he’s talking to her flirting with her a bit she’s gonna feel sparks of attraction for him, It’s the difference between getting laid and getting a girlfriend or going home and doing what most guys do when they go home alone. The second beginner mistake is assuming that he is being rejected if the woman isn’t showing lots of interest, so many guys miss out on being with women that are attracted to them.

Due to making this mistake right, a guy will be interacting with a woman who is feeling attracted and she’s interested, but like a typical woman, she isn’t showing loads of interest in him right away for various reasons. For example, some of the reasons why a woman will do that are to see if a guy will remain confident, even though she’s not showing him loads of interest or if a guy will remain interested in her.

Even though she’s not showing him loads of interest. Or she just doesn’t want to look like an easy girl right. She wants to show him that she’s, the sort of girl who can control herself right. She isn’t a type of woman. She doesn’t easily just hook up with guys she controls herself and a guy needs to understand that about women. Most women don’t want to look. They don’t want to look like an easy girl, so they’ll usually remain quite reserved, and at times it may even seem that she isn’t interested and that can sometimes be due to her insecurities.

For example, Sometimes she could be talking to a guy feeling attracted to him, and feeling like she’s coming on too strong too soon. She looks too keen he’s gonna think that she’s desperate, so she starts playing with a phone or acting like she’s, not that interested to play. It cool and so on. Yet if a guy doesn’t understand that all these sorts of things can go on, when he’s talking to a woman, then he may lose confidence. He may think that he’s being rejected by a woman who is actually interested in him. Another thing is some guys will say: all women are stupid. Why do they play games like that? Why don’t they just say that they like me right, so we can get on with kissing, having sex, and having a relationship?

Yet guys do the same thing to women right, a guy will like a woman and he will be playing it cool. He won’t have the confidence to tell her that he likes her instead, he’ll just keep talking to her and that’s what a lot of women do. They just keep talking to you, so that is often a signal that a woman is interested in you if she stays there. Talking to you, you’ve got to see that as a sign that she’s interested in you because if she wasn’t, she would most likely leave. So if you’re talking to a woman, she isn’t running away from you and she’s continuing to talk to you, then just get on with making her feel attracted connecting with her and taking things to the next level right, get to a kiss or get her phone number.

Get things moving along rather than making the beginner mistake in thinking that if a woman doesn’t show you loads of interest, then she’s not interested. Because, as I just explained a few moments ago, there can be all sorts of reasons why she isn’t showing loads of obvious interest, just like a guy will do when he’s interacting with a woman, and he is feeling unsure of himself. He starts talking to her as a friend inside he’s thinking wow. I really like this girl she’s so amazing, but he just talks to her like a friend.

Oh so what he’d been up to lady, oh yeah, cool, that’s interesting! He’S just talking to her, like a friend, he’s afraid to start flirting with her he’s afraid to show some obvious interest he’s afraid to make a move right. Both men and women often find themselves feeling that fear feeling insecure. So when you’re talking to a woman, don’t expect her to be showing loads of obvious signs of interest to let you know that she likes you many times, you’ll be talking to an attractive woman and she will like you, but she won’t make it super obvious.

So you just need to get on with making her feel some more attraction connecting with her and moving things forward. Otherwise, you’ll probably go your separate ways and she will end up feeling disappointed that she didn’t get to be with you. You may end up feeling disappointed that it didn’t work out. You thought she was interested in Italy, but she didn’t seem to be very interested. Come on give yourself a chance. Stick in there keep going and move things forward.

The third beginner mistake that a lot of guys make is not allowing her to experience the fun of trying to win him over. For example, a guy will meet a woman and feel instantly attracted to her because she’s pretty, he will then become overwhelmed by his attraction. To the point where he shows her he’s totally won over by her, she doesn’t have to do anything to impress him he’s totally into her. He wants to be her boyfriend. Yet if the woman is attractive, then she will have experienced that reaction from 99.9 % of the guys that she’s met throughout her life since she became a woman right.

So what women like that want to experience is the fun, the thrill, and the excitement of trying to win a guy over trying to use their charm and trying to use their beauty to win him over. So when a pretty woman, an attractive woman is talking to a guy who is making her fuel sparks of attraction for him. Based on how he’s approaching the conversation – and she then notices that he’s not totally sold on her right he’s not showing signs that he wants to be her boyfriend, he is just interacting with her making her feel attracted and There’s that sense there that she still needs to impress him to win him over, she becomes excited by that and in the process of trying to win him over trying to use her charm to make him like her more.

It makes her like him more right. She starts thinking. I really like this guy. I want to be with this guy I want to win him over. This guy is making me feel so attracted so excited. I want to be with him. So when you use that approach, the pickup becomes so much easier because it becomes about you allowing her to be with you, whereas what most guys do with this beginner mistake is instantly feel totally won over by a woman based on his attraction for her. He is impressed by her. He wants to be with her and might then start asking if she’s looking for a boyfriend or what she looks for in a boyfriend and so on.

She will sense that he has already won over and There’s nothing for her to do. She doesn’t have to impress him in any way, because he’s already totally won over by her and is hoping to become her boyfriend. So what you need to do is just calm down a little bit focus on making her feel attracted. Give her that sense that she needs to impress you to win you over and allow her to start using her charm to try to do that and in the process of doing that. She’s gonna, like you so much more she’s gonna, want to be with you and then when you allow her to be with you, she feels special. She feels excited to be with you because she won you over.

It wasn’t the typical thing that she has experienced since she became a woman. It wasn’t you trying hard to hopefully get with her. She felt that excitement of trying to win you over, and you can continue that throughout an entire relationship. You can keep that type of dynamic alive while still making her feel loved still committing to her and so on. You can always make her feel that sense that she needs to keep impressing you and winning more of your love. Once again, that’s a totally different experience for a man to be in that position, rather than trying hard to hopefully get a chance for the girl right.

So if you have been making some beginner mistakes with women and mistakes that you’re most likely not aware of – and you want to learn the easy way to go from hello to sex with a woman that you find attractive, then I recommend that you read my ebook. The flow or listen to the audiobook version, the flow on audio simply follow the steps of the flow, and you and a woman that you find attractive will flow from one step to the next. It’s the easiest way to get laid or get a girlfriend.

One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that It’s never too late to get started right instantly. Attracting women is something that you can easily learn to. Do. You simply need to adjust your approach when you’re, interacting with women that you find attractive, and you will see a completely different response and reaction from them. They will feel attracted to you. They will feel energized they’ll light up, they’ll be interested in you, they’ll be drawn to you. It’s such an amazing thing to experience as a man, and I hope that you don’t miss out on experiencing it for yourself because you think that you can’t do it when you can.

Jason Smith

Former Marine, IT Guy & Builder of Websites.  I have 5 US states left to visit. I enjoy hot springs, adventures, hiking, photography, sci-fi, wine, coffee & whiskey.  I am fluent in sarcasm, name that tune, & speak in movie quotes.  I spend most of my time building websites, fixing computers, metal detecting, magnet fishing and gaming occasionally.

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